Art of Giving & Receiving
Linda Mackenzie, C.H.T., Ph.D. (c)
To give and receive in balance, or fair exchange,
with oneself and others is a Universal Law that brings positive
energy into your life which ultimately extends out to the world
and perhaps beyond. Giving and receiving happens to us all, every
day of our lives, whether we are conscious of it or not.
There are many hidden reasons why we give and receive.
So it is important to consciously understand the how, what, where,
when and why of our own personal reasons. Understanding these
patterns points the way to stopping negative experiences, emotions
The way in which one gives and receives can be convoluted
with many negative aspects that they may not be aware of. These
negative aspects lead to disappointment, unfulfilled feelings,
guilt, sadness and other negative emotions, which consequently
produce negative energy for the person whom is giving AND the
person who is receiving. For example, have you ever received a
gift from someone and thought to yourself, "What were they
thinking when they got this?" You were disappointed. Despite
your "thank you" the giver, whose heart was in the right
place, feels your unspoken energy and may even consciously realize
that the gift they thought would bring you joy - didn't. The giver
feels sad. A truly intended positive experience has turned into
a negative and since we are all energetically connected, this
negative energy extends collectively to affect the people around
you, the world and the Universe.
You can see why it is important for everyone to
understand their reasons for giving and receiving. It can transform
potential negative situations into positive ones. If someone chooses
to be unaware, or continue to give or receive for the "wrong"
reasons they will remain in negative emotions and produce negative
energy that will follow them throughout their life until realization
of what they are doing is perceived by them.
In reality, there are no "wrong" reasons
or mistakes. There are just growth processes that help one realize
spiritual fulfillment. Realizing your spiritual fulfillment is
one of the many reasons that we are all here on earth. So the
choice becomes merely how long do you want to stay in negativity
and maintain the negative aspects in your life? Do you want to
take a short road or a long road to being positive, happy and
One of the ways to release negative emotions and
the negative aspects of life is through self-realization of why
one is doing what they are doing. Once realized, truth will prevail
and become your teacher. Truth will not release you until you
have learned the lesson and spiritual growth is accomplished.
You will repeat the same lesson, although not exactly in the same
way, until the lesson is learned. Once the lesson is learned,
you will never have to go through that lesson again because the
truth becomes a part of you and is no longer denied.
Think back in your life, has giving and receiving
created negative emotions that have followed you down your path
in life? How often was that? Can you discern the reasons? Each
person is unique and different. They have their own reasons for
the way they give and receive, which is based upon their perception.
A person's perception is just that - only their perception. It
is based on their innate abilities and experiences (e.g., family,
society, culture, environment, etc.). Since you are unique only
you can discern your reasons of giving and receiving and why they
may not be producing the positive results you want. Think about
the reasons why you give and receive. Look for the primary reason
or common denominator. Ask yourself this question, "In most
cases why do I give and receive?" Finding your primary reason
for giving and receiving is the first step to help you determine
if there is a hidden underlying negative cause that could be contributing
to the negative results that you are getting. Here are some hints,
but remember only you know the real answer.
WHY DO YOU GIVE AND RECEIVE?
Do you give or receive because:
- you feel you have to or because it's "expected"?
- you'll feel guilty if you don't?
- it makes you feel important?
- you want something in return emotionally or monetarily?
- you want to show people you are abundant or want to "look
- you want or need to fit in?
- you want or need to feel good?
- you perceive a need or want to be filled for you or another
All of the above reasons mask a hidden negativity.
They tie you in to attachment to social parameters, negative emotions,
ego, emotional need, material possessions or control issues, which
contribute to separating you from your true spiritual self. They
separate you from the true joy of giving and receiving. They limit
you. Each of these reasons takes away the real spirit of giving
and receiving. It stops the balance, which is required to attain
true positive results from giving and receiving.
After discovering your primary reason the next step
is to delve further into that reason to discover why you feel
this way and whether it is really appropriate for you. If you
are not getting the desired results that you want it probably
is not. If it is not, try and initiate some positive changes in
your life to eliminate your negative aspects of giving and receiving.
WHAT DO YOU GIVE OR RECEIVE?
Do you give or receive too much?
WHERE DO YOU GIVE & RECEIVE?
Do you only give or receive when it is a holiday or birthday?
Do you limit your giving and receiving?
WHEN DO YOU GIVE & RECEIVE?
Do you only give when you feel pressured? Do you come from your
heart when you give?
HOW DO YOU GIVE & RECEIVE?
Do you set up expectations of outcomes when you give or receive?
Do you set up significance on what you give or receive? Do you
set up attitudes or judgment when you give or receive? Are you
giving or receiving for the need and desires of the other person?
Do you expect something back in return for what you give?
Giving and receiving requires at least two or more
people. So to give and receive in a positive way, one must try
and discern the other person's perception or ask them their needs
and desires. If you only come from your perception, disregarding
the perception of the person you are giving (or receiving) from,
this becomes a control issue or it may be a way to satisfy your
own ego for self-gratification. The "good" that you
feel and want them to feel never extends to the other person.
You are truly not giving or receiving at all you are only giving
and receiving to yourself. There is no balance. It is a one-sided
scenario that can not work.
Giving and receiving should be balanced. If you
give too much or receive too much there is not balance. It creates
a karmic debt for the other person, who will usually not respond
in the way that you want, because they subconsciously will turn
away from the karmic debt.
All in all, if you feel unfulfilled and are not
getting positive results from your giving and receiving explore
why you are not. Then use your newly discovered truths to attain
the positive energy of giving and receiving in balance. It will
contribute to attracting more positive energetic situations in
your life and keep the positive energy flowing on the planet.
Now how great is that!
This information is intended
for general information purposes only. Individuals with health
problems should always seek their natural health care provider
before administrating suggestions made above. Application
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